This is my kickback at the numerous self-important posts on twitter, full of pap, endlessly telling everyone how to work from home, how to structure your day, how to set a timetable for home schooling. Well my online friends, if that’s your shtick look away now. I am particularly well qualified in this area as I’ve been mostly housebound with disability for 5 years. All this has been courtesy of a bite from a tiny tick, the size of a poppy seed. More on that later.
I know only too well how difficult it is to adapt to a life indoors. Society has had little warning and not really enough time to prepare for this huge change in lifestyle. One day in April 2015 I hit the deck and that was it. No warning. I was a self employed yoga teacher and despite my best efforts I eventually had to give it all up. I have received treatment and recovered from the worst, but the chances of a full recovery are slim. I was gravely ill and to be honest I am lucky to still be here. I shall now put down the smallest violin in the world and instead try my hand at giving some advice and tips, the first of which is to have day jammies and night jammies. Do you even know about lounge wear?
Let yourself be a bit slower. Getting your mind to slow down is probably a big adjustment and that will happen gradually, over time. Try not to fight it or resist it, accepting that we are all in this together might be helpful.
Recognise and accept any feelings you have that all of this is going against the grain. The first thing that helped me was to allow myself to accept that my new life was slow. I know that maybe you’re busy working every day, perhaps the deadline for your online conference/meeting means hurrying to be appropriately dressed from the waist up and making sure you won’t be interrupted by the cat/dog/kids. Or perhaps, like me, you face a frightening and unknown future with no prospect of work or income.
In my case I was alone, everyone else’s life was untouched, with the exception of my of children. With the invaluable help of family and friends I managed to keep them in a good routine attending school and other activities. Know that everyone around you is likely to be feeling the same fears and worries.
I used to be asked a lot of questions when I first became ill. When was I going back to work? When was I going to get better? How long will it take me to get better? On and on, sometimes accompanied by frankly ridiculous “cures” for Lyme disease.
I realised the only way to answer the myriad questions in a way that satisfied me was to simply say how I was on that day. It helped to alleviate some of the fear and to learn to trust my own experience.
How is your life today?
Lisa Wells is a disabled single parent living in a rural village in Co Down, the name of which hardly anyone can pronounce and only the residents know how to find. She has been writing a blog on life indoors for a few years.