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#SpunOut.ie: Fine Gael TD rejects cost-border threesomes advice

Mon 25 March 2013, 5:24pm

SpunOut.ie, a cross-border charity providing mental health and sexual advice to young adults aged 16-25 has become the latest source of outrage for Fine Gael TD for Mayo, Michelle Mulherin. Her focus is one, of about 3000 articles on the SpunOut.ie website, which concerns threesomes. It offers advice on how to deal with the issue if it arises in a relationship and, if you decide to proceed with it:

A threesome involves getting sexually intimate with two people rather than just one person. Threesomes can involve any combination of guys and gals. They often consist of a couple experimenting with another person outside of their relationship. Some people find threesomes to be enjoyable, for others it is an uncomfortable or upsetting experience.

You may feel under pressure by your partner to have a threesome because your other half has seen them on porn, films, or television.

However, you should never feel pressured into doing something that you don’t want to do.

However, in yesterday’s Sindo, Mulherin takes a particular reading of this and is quoted as saying:

“The idea that people are dispensable and that you can objectify them for your own sexual gratification is incredibly regressive. And that this has been given the State seal of approval is very worrying,” she said.

“There is nothing right about this. I will be raising the issue with Minister for Health James Reilly as to why he is putting taxpayers’ money towards this. It is totally inappropriate. It goes against the common good which is what the Government should be trying to achieve in society.

“Every relationship has an emotional consequence, there is no such thing as a meaningless relationship. Teenagers are very impressionable and this is normalising this type of behaviour.”

SpunOut’s response has been quick to highlight the fact that it provides advice:

We do not promote threesomes, we arm young people with the facts about them. We advise young people not to be coerced or pressured into having any form of sex.

Pretty clear message there.

Yet her Fine Gael party colleague Health Minister James Reilly is to get the HSE to review it’s funding of the website, while Young Fine Gael have come out in support of SpunOut.ie. Being interviewed on Newstalk this morning, Michelle Mulherin continued in her moral outrage.

Mulherin is the TD who caused a stir when she raised the issue of ‘fornication’ during an Oireachtas debate last year.

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  1. sherdy (profile) says:

    Has she any thoughts other than kinky sex?

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  2. keano10 (profile) says:

    Mayo has always been a strange county. Isolated on the West Coast but without any of the charm, character or madness of Galway. Regressive and insular. 4 of it’s 5 TD’s are FG and each of them with a mindsight befitting a Tea Party member in South Carolina.

    As for threesome’s many young people are gonna be curious enough to give it a go at some stage. We live in a sexually liberated society and there is’nt any that the Stepford Wifes of Castlebar and Wesport can do about it…

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  3. Neil (profile) says:

    Fornication the ’cause of unwanted pregnancies’

    Funny.

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  4. Alias (profile) says:

    “We do not promote threesomes, we arm young people with the facts about them.”

    And here they are promoting threesomes on their website:

    “It’s fun! Threesomes are pretty exciting things. People usually really enjoy them.
    It’s a sexual adventure. Threesomes are usually a once in a lifetime or an occasional experience.
    It spices things up. Some couples say that even one threesome experience injects serious passion into their bedroom shenanigans.”

    Sign me up…

    The TD has a fair point: the State should not be paying others to promote such sexual practices.

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  5. Tochais Síoraí (profile) says:

    As stated earlier there are 4 FG TDs in Mayo, it’s an unusual situation & highly unlikely to be repeated next time around so it’s a dogfight. Mulherin is desperately trying to keep some kind of a profile – she’s up against a Taoiseach, a populist minister and a high profile GAA figure for what will be a reduced FG vote.

    One will get the boot leaving another threesome Michelle won’t feature in.

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  6. Rory Carr (profile) says:

    God knows what she’d make of the following sentiments:

    So boys cling together
    In all kinds of weather
    Don’t show the white feather
    Wherever you go.

    Stay close like a brother
    And love one another
    Like the true-hearted men
    From the County Mayo

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  7. BarneyT (profile) says:

    This is an interesting one. When is promotion information sharing? Running is fun. Is that promotion? Perhaps. Running can cause serious injury. Is that dissuasion?
    I see both statements of airing facts, both from a positive and negative perspective; however elaboration is required regardless of the position taken.

    Promotion sells and as such is naturally biased and unbalanced. It seems that they are achieving balance and are perhaps more in touch with sexual developments in our society that many of us may not be in tune with. Is this not what was on offer in the 60’s, so we are perhaps doing no less than returning to the past? Perhaps that side of the 60’s never touched Ireland, to our detriment.

    Health advice is positive if it recognises that specific acts do occur, such as under age sex, unprotected sex etc. Taking a holier than thou moral stance is akin to placing ones head in the sand.

    Accepting the occurrence of sexual acts is not the same as advocating them. Underage sex will happen and it is hard to stop. The best that can be done to avoid problems is to promote health care through education and availability of condoms, morning after pills (oh look he’s advocating unprotected sex) etc.

    Underage sex is best dealt with through accepting that it happens but then by highlighting the psychological and physical impact it can have, particularly if the person is not ready or sufficiently mature. Any other approach is only going to generate curiosity and rebellion which will mean many enter (….) “battle” unarmed.

    I can imagine that there are many relationships out there that have gone stale and could use the injection (no pun intended) from a third party. It’s something I have never done and based on my current life path will never do, but I would not discount it for anyone else, even those in the 16 to 25 bracket. The key thing is to recognise that is happens and to deal with the potential danger but this has to be done knowing that for others, it is exciting, liberating and enjoyable, and frankly their business.

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